Definitional Essay- Kailee Whiting

Believe It or Not, It is Rape

If a woman does not fight back, it is not rape.  If a woman gets drunk at a party and cannot talk, it is not rape.   If there is not a clear distinct no voiced by the woman during intercourse, it is not rape. If the woman took drugs, it is not rape.  If a pregnancy results from sex according to the British text, Fleta, “Without a woman’s consent, she could not conceive.”  Men never say no, men never get raped.

These are all commonly understood definitions of rape. Before rape was even criminalized these were agreed terms on what rape is and is not.  These definitions that men have created further hurt and re-victimize the victims of the crime.

Rape can happen in any place, anytime, and to anyone.  Rapists can be husbands, boyfriends, friends, neighbors, or strangers.  Rape is a violent crime that can affect a person for the rest of their life.  These life-changing effects can range from an abusive relationship with drugs and alcohol to contemplating suicide. An astounding 89,000+ cases of rape are reported in the United States each year, but only 3% percent of rapists will see the inside of a prison.

Rape happens when both parties do not give consent during sex.  If a person tries to fight off sex, it is rape.  If a person is abusing drugs or alcohol and has sex, it is rape.  If they say no, then it is rape.  Rape can cause pregnancy. Both men and women can be victims of rape.  These are the actual definitions of rape.  These definitions do not re-victimize the already suffering victims.  To educate the masses is to help prevent such crimes from happening in the future.

Department of Defense. “Rape Statistics.” Statistic Brain RSS. Statistic Brain, 26 July 2012. Web. 28 Apr. 2013. <;.

Eichelberger, Erika. “Men Defining Rape: A History.” Mother Jones. Foundation for National Progress, 27 Aug. 2012. Web. 28 Apr. 2013. <;.

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3 Responses to Definitional Essay- Kailee Whiting

  1. davidbdale says:

    Yes, I agree, Kailee, about your essay, that is, but not apparently about the meaning of “very soon.” 🙂

    Grade recorded. Make me change it very soon, please.

  2. davidbdale says:

    Hey, Kailee.
    P1. What a superbly effective paragraph this is. You need one more “it is not rape” to follow the “could not conceive.” Five minutes later, I’m still waiting for it. But the rhythm of those negatives is devastating, and the last line is killer.

    P2. Also very nice, though the tenses wander a bit. “was even criminalized” is a little confusing. Criminalized compared to what? The “even” doesn’t seem to have a clear function. But what really makes it effective is the left-handed claim that brings it all home: “These definitions that men have created.” Do you understand—you must, you wrote it this way deliberately!—how much more effective that is than “Men have created these definitions.” Putting the underlying claim in the same sentence as the accusatory claim that the definitions are hurtful is very mature writing, Kailee. It would help to say that rape is hurtful first, before you claim “further hurt,” but that may be asking too much.

    P3. Fails for grammar Rule 4. a person . . . their life. Why not fix the Rule 4 violation and emphasize that the victims are female at the same time, by saying, “can affect a woman for the rest of her life”? (I know men can be raped, but you’re not obligated to say so every time you mention rape. It can wait.)

    Don’t disembody your victim when you’re building sympathy for her, Kailee. Replace the passive: can range from a relationship with and to contemplating. Where’s the woman in this? She should be actively abusing and contemplating, no achieving suicide in your sentences.

    P4. You mean: rape happens when one party does not consent. Hmmm . . . yeah, maybe. But there are steps missing. Knowing that sex with someone who’s been drinking might be rape doesn’t prevent anything unless the potential assailant either 1) has a strong conscience or 2) believes there will be consequences. The first might require a social attitude change. The second requires a much more aggressive approach from law enforcement.

    Still, I see what you mean. That “buzzed driving is drunk driving” campaign is doing its best to redefine how we think about booze and cars. “If she’s too drunk to say no, that’s not a yes.”

    Very impressive, Kailee.
    New grade recorded.

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